Chitra RaPooja …functions….. Neivedyam…etc. at home…
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When some male or female coparcener passes away in the joint Hindu family, it is customary to observe certain restrictions on our celebrating festivals, doing some pooja, etc… for one day, three days, and one month, One year etc.may be these are written in some books which I could not lay hand nor enquire about it through Face book… or not written anywhere on books but continued as custom or practice followed by ancestors from generation..
During last three months a coparcener of self and another of my spouse left the world and thus the incidence of such a period occurred. Of course both had crossed 83 years of age and had lived a satisfactorily contented lives with most of their children being Engineers, doctors etc married and a few of them settled in US .Following the advice of elders or the oral advice of our Vadhyars, elder people or patties etc in the house etc we have decided not to celebrate any functions in the house for one year from the date of occurrence of any death in the family.
Today the 29th Sept.. Being Saraswathi Pooja.. the restriction as as applicable now…we did not do any pooja except worshipping a photo of goddess saraswathi as usual. But it was evening when I was talking to my sister in law in Bangalore she said we should keep all books for puja under Saraswathi photo and read books from tomorrow despite all these restrictions in force. So it became necessary for me to serach some books on subjects like Income Tax, Computer, Watson, Sanskrit, Cooking etc and keep them in pooja for reading from tomorrow. Meantime for the last one week or nine days our neighbor Palghat Iyer Maami who is not under such restrictions invites my spouse to their house everyday to see golu , sing songs and get prasdam The maamis bring me golu prasadams everyday when my spouse is away. Today also I wait for some Chundal, Pattani, Payaru, etc from the good neighbors.
Generally what they mean is we should not in a happy mood and celebrate the functions such as Pondukalukku Idal, or say Dievathukku idal,Bhagavathi sevai, and poojas at temple and also do not conduct any poojas etc at some temples and more so in Siva temples. However exceptions are that you can participate in Avani avittam, Deepavali, conduct marriages, seemantham etc etc and some of them without making it a function making special sweets etc..In particular we are told not to go twosome important Siva or Ayyappa temples for some months..Etc. However small functions like children”s or grandchildren”s birthday etc can be celebrated..
In addition we are also told not to participate and attend unimportant marriages etc of others not related to us..…In particular if there is some pooja or something thereof we shouldn’t participate in it. In particular any naivedyam or prasadam etc made and offered during Navarathri, Deepavali etc are banned.
However my daughter in USA is allowed to observe all functions including Golu etc and son at Fremont CA is covered under the restrictions as applicable to us.
However conveying happy Sarswathi Pooja or acknowledging same from others through Face book, Whatsapp, Twitter etc. are not specifically banned. I convey all best wishes for the whole year for all functions festivals etc through this medium.
jesh Brindha Raghavan
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When some male or female coparcener passes away in the joint Hindu family, it is customary to observe certain restrictions on our celebrating festivals, doing some pooja, etc… for one day, three days, and one month, One year etc.may be these are written in some books which I could not lay hand nor enquire about it through Face book… or not written anywhere on books but continued as custom or practice followed by ancestors from generation..
During last three months a coparcener of self and another of my spouse left the world and thus the incidence of such a period occurred. Of course both had crossed 83 years of age and had lived a satisfactorily contented lives with most of their children being Engineers, doctors etc married and a few of them settled in US .Following the advice of elders or the oral advice of our Vadhyars, elder people or patties etc in the house etc we have decided not to celebrate any functions in the house for one year from the date of occurrence of any death in the family.
Today the 29th Sept.. Being Saraswathi Pooja.. the restriction as as applicable now…we did not do any pooja except worshipping a photo of goddess saraswathi as usual. But it was evening when I was talking to my sister in law in Bangalore she said we should keep all books for puja under Saraswathi photo and read books from tomorrow despite all these restrictions in force. So it became necessary for me to serach some books on subjects like Income Tax, Computer, Watson, Sanskrit, Cooking etc and keep them in pooja for reading from tomorrow. Meantime for the last one week or nine days our neighbor Palghat Iyer Maami who is not under such restrictions invites my spouse to their house everyday to see golu , sing songs and get prasdam The maamis bring me golu prasadams everyday when my spouse is away. Today also I wait for some Chundal, Pattani, Payaru, etc from the good neighbors.
Generally what they mean is we should not in a happy mood and celebrate the functions such as Pondukalukku Idal, or say Dievathukku idal,Bhagavathi sevai, and poojas at temple and also do not conduct any poojas etc at some temples and more so in Siva temples. However exceptions are that you can participate in Avani avittam, Deepavali, conduct marriages, seemantham etc etc and some of them without making it a function making special sweets etc..In particular we are told not to go twosome important Siva or Ayyappa temples for some months..Etc. However small functions like children”s or grandchildren”s birthday etc can be celebrated..
In addition we are also told not to participate and attend unimportant marriages etc of others not related to us..…In particular if there is some pooja or something thereof we shouldn’t participate in it. In particular any naivedyam or prasadam etc made and offered during Navarathri, Deepavali etc are banned.
However my daughter in USA is allowed to observe all functions including Golu etc and son at Fremont CA is covered under the restrictions as applicable to us.
However conveying happy Sarswathi Pooja or acknowledging same from others through Face book, Whatsapp, Twitter etc. are not specifically banned. I convey all best wishes for the whole year for all functions festivals etc through this medium.
jesh Brindha Raghavan
