Precautions to be taken when you are alone

Hardly she has stayed away from me for more than two days after retirement in 2007. During  my service of 40 years,I have been away from her for over seven years on account of Bank's transfers to various places like  Trichur,Quilon,Phaltan,Mumbai Inspection and Audit,Tuticorin,Majhgaon Bihar, etc During such period of separation,  She was happy at Head Quarters Chennai with children taking care of children and all other things.. That is all over .

Now she is away from home  for a fortnight on some urgent domestic work.So it became necessary  for me to cook food at home ...

Especially after rice is cooked, when excess starch or liquid kanji is there,removing it by placing a plate at 45 degrees and allow the hot excess  liquid drop One day the whole thing fell down  when I was removing it from stove,burnt right hand thigh...skin  above the femur  a little. I applied some ointment or face cream easily found .. it became all right ..but when I telephoned her she shouted saying you don't know even this.

Next is switching off gas stove  cooker oven control knob by turning it right or left  after use which I forget invariably and she smells gas and comes running inside This we should take care.

Next is touching hot lid of vessel making sambar etc.  Got fingers burnt two days back. Put. some ointment.  No other medicine...

Similarly,some idukki or hot pakad touched my stomach gave a burn .Again ointment applied.

But did not tell her all these, as her reaction   would increase the pain of burns

But I have seen her getting hurt or burnt similarly despite her long experience and expertise in cooking..When I ask her she says it is nothing .it .will go away .

But she reminds  me daily through telephone by asking....did you switch off unwanted light, fans,AC,,did you supervise the maidservant, did you wash your cloths without using washing machine,did you telephone to any of your people in my absence, did you clean fridge, remove trash,etc ,. Fortunately I don't know telephone numbers of many relatives  and Facebook friends who perhaps know my plight   What to do... This is life..

Errors we make unknowingly..

Among many errors or mistakes we make in life I narrate a few briefly....

I must have been 6 or seven years old. I was studying in 2nd class in Vivekodayam Boys High School,Trichur   My parents although not wealthy used to see children boy or girl wears  golden ear stud always. I too was wearing may be  just 1 sovereign. In the drill class or somewhere I remembered later someone unscrewed and took away my studs. In the house on their asking told them what happened...The mistakes are of parents sending children with golden ornaments and the carelessness of children or call them ...asadu in Tamil they say samarthyam illai...

I was stationed at Bombay for two years working in Inspection and Audit Department of the Bank. I used to visit Chennai once in 3  months where wife and family lived and stay with them for 3 to 4 days adjusting leave,Holiday S,etc.
I was travelling from Mumbai to Chennai in 1998...in II tier compartment...with my box full of Bombay articles for family,children,etc ...golden wristwatch,gold  chain,purse with tickets,money etc.  sleeping on the berth  during night . .I had kept the box unchained to the seat in the side adjacent to door under RAC seats and kept my purse in pant pockets  .After the train  crossing Pune early morning I found  my box,wristwatch,chain,tickets,money,etc missing.  I tried to lodge a complaint at the nearest station but no use  There was no result in my filing complaints at Central Railway Station ..Police.,Chennai on my reaching   Chennai. Here the mistakes were mine.... not tying box to seat,sleeping  without attention of mind

They used to  identify and recognize my nature  in my  house..and say...Raghavana eeasiya emattalam..means you can cheat Raghavan easily     I got encouragement....It added to my talents...Ofcourse my elder sisters Lakshmi and  Bhagavathi along  with my mother used to be innocent or paavum and I used to tell them all matters untrue yet believed by them ..

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The latest incident   was last week my  giving  the ATM card PIN no to someone over telephone ..who cheated me around Rs 12557.....Mistake mine...never give Password or PIN to anyone...Also donot post or give your cellphone numbers in public network etc.Also donot believe unknown persons....

In 2007 I was returning home in a bus from Puraswalkam Chennai to Mandevalli with my hand  bag and purse in pant pocket containing Bank Card,Driving licence,money etc and near Kilpauk. Bus  Stop when bus stopped I saw fellows getting down in crowd.. One of them had picked my pocket taken purse,cash perhaps thrown out Driving licence,PAN card,Bank Card,..I reached home My daughter Chitra contacted banks got the balances in the account relating to card lost or stolen to some other account,got the lost card hotlisted,etc. It took quite sometime to get new PAN,Driving licence etc..Mistake.. Mine .. should be vigilant in bus travel, never carry original Licence, PAN,etc unless needed.

Ofcourse ladies should avoid wearing gold chains and go alone in secluded places  My wife used to go to nearby Bhuvaneswari temple in Coimbatore  in the morning and evening  2001 or 2002. One evening while she was about to reach the temple near our house walking, two persons riding a TVS 50 moped came near her,stopped the vehicle,snatched a costly  gold chain she was wearing and sped away  The two thirumangalyams and some balls attached  to the chain fell on  the ground which she collected and held safe and brought home  She was injured  in the neck...although she shouted  for help ,nobody from  nearby houses came forward ..She came home crying and there was  no  favourable  result after approaching the nearest police station and  making a complaint ..Here  the...Mistake ..... My wife's.  ..she should not wear gold chain easily visible to others... .should close all parts, ornaments worn,,etc suitably in public places .

We should be careful anywhere in public.We learn by experience and by losing money....Women should take more care and precautions and men should obey them . .

Carry your Personal ID Proof always with you....

I had to rush to Tiruchirapalli by bus a few days back with my wife. ...Probably for the first time  I forgot to carry my ID proof..with me and in bus it was not necessary .

While getting a return rail ticket online  at Turuchirapalli ,it was done by a relative at home  and  I got the SMS in my smartphone  PNR number.,etc  Later it was realized ID proof would be needed for all e tickets  On my contacting my son in law in USA he could trace out my Passport ,scan it and send it to me through e mail .I took a printout of it.

But my wife told me in one of her previous trips I had given her a  copy of her PAN ..and she had to face a situation of paying penalty  She was heard murmuring and complaining about me to others.

Here I got into Pallavan Express with e ticket  at Tiruchirapalli Junction ..and  a copy of my Passport. The TTR verified many e tickets hard copies and others through smartphone,and for some original PAN,etc .When he saw me he would have  been convinced that I was a senior citizen and he asked for  my original ID proof   When I told him the situation under which I travelled etc,he quoted the Railway rules treating such a  journey as  one without ticket and the penalty amount of Rs.250/...or so as per Railway extant rules 

He said    ""I am leaving you but if the squad catches you may be fined."" Till I got down at Mambalam Station and came out of  the entrance  reaching  Ranganathan Street,I was afraid I may be fined like my wife who got  caught  once   for not possessing original ID proof

It is required one carries original proof of Identity like Aadhar Card,Voter ID,PAN,Driving licence etc for avoiding similar situations...