We quarrel,fight,argue,counter ..but still reconcile and live together.... She
is always correct I feel and she feels I am correct...
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It was in 1974 that I got married to
BRINDHALAKSHMI... Almost 42 years have elapsed after our becoming wife and
husband... Among things we have faced together, it comes to my mind
various instances when we had quarrels, arguments ,counter arguments,ultimatum
of legal separation through words,the severeness of mental agony
resulting from such petty quarrels and the satisfaction and peace of mind felt
in our joining again forgetting any minor differences of opinion .
I remember.. instances in 1974 when I had to leave home by 7 AM to reach my Office Bank by 8.30 AM..at Jayanagar, Bangalore,.a distance of around 10kms by bus from our residence at Seshadripuram, Bangalore. Although I would be ready to leave home in time ,she would not have kept my breakfast or food ready.In a fit of anger I used to shout at her and she used to retaliate stating. You may go without food I used to leave home without taking food reach Office ,get some food etc...Ofcourse evening when I return home by 6 PM...she would be waiting for me with all good,smile of her young face making me forget all anger I had in the morning and feel happy in her presence.Ofcourse I have felt what she told me was correct ..go to office without food...she was new to Bangalore ,just around 17 or 18 years old etc....She needed time to prepare food etc ..I used to think over and feel she was correct...This is how our married life began .
In 1976 a year after marriage we were in Trichur... I remember to have left her in a Railway station and come home out of anger ...but she came back home..although she did not know the language Malayalam or the address.
There were many instances when I have told her. "" You go back to
your parent's home..I can remain without you. Or seek separation.."".but
in my heart of hearts I never felt I should ever leave her.
We are married to live together, bring up children well and live happily and
peacefully.We feel happy having done our duties as wife and husband as parents
to children.
This morning I had a fight and severe arguments with her and she is more
powerful and aggressive in her arguments . ..But in mind or heart was feeling
she is correct.May be the instance of quarrelling or arguing with your wife
brings in a hidden cementing force strengthening our relationship to remain as
wife and husband...She would have felt that I am correct.
After 42 years of such married life, I recollect how she has stood
with me through all situations..especially during my illness 1979 onwards
...and brought up children,taken care of their education, welfare etc
..I also feel how I took care of her during some accidents say around
4...leading to Surgery etc .She takes care of food and cooking and I take care
of her health and medicines..She is a little vociferous but in contact with
all my relatives and her relatives and many others..
So , there has been an understanding of sharing our skills or natures
mostly not expressly but felt in the interest of family.
Whatever quarrels,arguments,etc we have, we get back united the same day
Perhaps this is the God given natural gift to all married persons to remain
together always despite any occasional differences of opinion .
As I feel she is always correct,my wife must be feeling similarly that I am correct..culminating in a peaceful and successful married life
