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Monday, April 09, 2018

I did not like to marry a graduate.....

I hear the following nephew and nieces of my non graduate wife Brindhalakshmi  getting graduated in May 2018 in USA.

Harish Babu son of Arunachalam...PhD....Texas university at Dallas in May 2018

Srilakshmi  daughter of Balakrishnan ..MS Bimmanghton University of New York in May 2018

Varsha daughter of Ananthanarayanan MS ..Bimmanghton university in May 2018

Saraswathi Hathikal sister in law of Harish getting her MS from Bhimmanghton university.

The other day my granddaughter Poorvi was telling about her Graduation from Kindergarten School ...Appleseed school ...Santa Clara CA..due in May end 2018.I USA they have graduation event at each grade of school from Kindergarten to Post Doctorate.

I was recollecting to my memory  how I married my wife BRINDHALAKSHMI  in 1974 who was not a graduate.I recall I got promotion as Officer in Bank one month after marrying her ...May be she was lucky to have an Officer husband whom she could manage later.

While I was working in Bank of  India Bangalore since 1968 , my father was particular I got married as decided by him and my mother.May be he was suspicious that I would love someone in the Office and marry without their consent Incidentally there were many offers from my seniors in Office for their daughters as they found bright future in me a Graduate in Science .Those days a University Graduate was considered a person with bright future...Engineering,Medical or Computer graduates or Chartered Accountants were less and commanded higher market value.

It was informed to me that one good girl a double graduate with a Law degree working in a  Bank was ready in the list as inquired by her father some Saptharishi who was a Criminal Advocate in Bangalore or so .Initially I was attracted at the offer, later I analyzed and foresaw that the matching may not work. It was suggested by the Girl's father I could join his Law firm and me and his daughter could work as juniors.But I thought it might not work as she may get separated or I may leave her being the result of both being argumentative.Of course there would be no love between the lawyers or liars as they are called .

Of course I had desired to marry my neighbor cumulative relative's daughter Bhanu who was a drop out from school but was innocent and used to see my mother in her.It did not materialize. In Bank where I worked I did not make any attempt ...although there were young and responsible girls available.

Of course I had agreed marrying any good girl ..So my father got me the present wife ..not a university graduate but a little more than that.I had once reported about her. She cooks well,talks well and fights with all and generally not obedient ...These qualities I consider enough to treat her as a Graduate  and I recognize it.. but am sure these are hidden characters of women we are unable to test and find out before marriage...She was from a village Andipatti...Madurai .Tamilnadu ..had finished her SSLC and become a major reaching the age of eighteen... at the time of marriage ...and perhaps agreed marrying a dark person like me being a graduate and staying in a city like Bangalore.

Of course my opinion about not marrying a Graduate was that being a Graduate she would question me for any action .Again if she were earning she would not respect me or care me .As against this a non graduate would know less but would bring up the family,take care of the family etc.  This is a real story.My only specifications were ...she should be lean,fair,good-looking , not wearing glasses,curly haired,homecoming and knowing cooking and obeying elders and me .She satisfied the requirements. Of course we got our horoscopes compared and found matching...That was how I did not marry a Graduate or Double Graduate.

Of course I console myself realizing matches and marriages are held in heaven and so what to do?


 This is the black and white photo of my wife Brindhalakshmi her parents sent to my parents to approve. By comparison she appeared of white complexion and I was and am black in color.


Sunday, March 25, 2018

Song of a grandfather in America

Neither am a Night Watchman in Cricket Match,
Nor a Goal keeper in  soccer or football watch,
Remain as Daycare father or mother great,
Enjoy the visit as a Baby sitter or grandfather right..


Enjoy the dawn of morning see smiling face of toddler,
Feed him milk,formula,semi solid and fruit matter,
Get bitten by incisors erupt as six months old,
Pat and touch at back help him sleep as told.


Little deeds of kids remind us go,
Acts of love we showered and felt  years ago,
When we too played ,learnt and troubled them as kids,
Parents were from   of God who take care of us for all odds.


What is life without love we feel and remember and remain,
One between the man and woman in love which rarely remain,
The strong one among siblings and children of parents  so dear,
The strongest being love of father and mother to children  for ever.


Dress him warm with cloth  and shining
Make him sit in high chair standing,
change bib or diaper and  do wiping ,
Clean   overflowing mouth of liquid  after eating,


Support him stand amidst crawling ,sitting and climbing,
Cover the sleeping kid in crib with warm clothing,
Watch him steal and taste particles lying on ground ,
Pull him back while  crawling behind grandma old ,
Moves around the  island in kitchen and rooms around,
He pulls  all electric power  cable attached in wall good.


Fever or cold he faces with infection,
Medicines and care of parents found for perfection,
He joins us see TV programs when free in noon,
Dance of Jimikki  kamal  dance  and others seen.


In guarded stroller we take him out,
Go to the Murdock park in and out,
Allow his father  work throughout,
Assist us complete our daily workout.


This is the routine  life of senior grandparents,
Who live in America as visitors and parents,
Of children who were kids sometime  thus,
And bestow  their children as gifts for us.

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Saturday, March 24, 2018

Thoughts of a man


I am in cloud surrounded by big data  sockets,

When I hear terms as Blockchain and crypto currency brackets,

Plummeting of Bitcoin ,New York  or Asian stock markets,

Hidden in swift leading to  frauds in Indian Banks,

Read terms as Hypoglycemia,Hyperglycemia and HbA1C levels and test probability,

Permuting   Metformin and Glymepiride  capacity,

Life is a drama continuing against age,

Age being a Determinant for any action in old age,

Watson and artificial intelligence alone have,

Made me Think in 2018 and save

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Wednesday, November 29, 2017

Don't get him anything...he will spoil everything....

Chitra   Don't get him anything.....he will spoil everything....

  This is in a lighter vein.     
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Black Friday.....in the United States..

Is the day after Thanksgiving Day and the Friday before Cyber Monday...in the United States.It is a busy shopping day and is a holiday in some states...

Many people have a day off work or choose to take a day away from their quota of annual leave on Black Friday.Some people make it to make trips to see family members or friends who live in other areas.Many shops have special offers on some goods,gadgets,toys,etc....

We went to some mall or shop.... Target .. on the Black Friday...There were various electronic gadgets,costumes ,I phones,Chrome cast..,Robots,..etc..I was watching some of them and the crowd of Asian or Indian population buying truckloads of toys,gadgets at cheap rates..and the fair colored others too.... Our daughter Chitra also bought some items like ceramic jars,cups,etc...Of course I remember our son Rajesh waiting for the Black Friday at 12 noon  years back for getting some Samsung TV ...62 inches LED ..etc I don't know all these....from a Mall ...got it for 200 US D or so....and brought home....USD was at Rs.30 0r so then.Nowadays they get all items booked online before a Fridays and get good deal..

Black Friday falls on the Friday succeeding the Thanksgiving day which falls on 4 th  Thursday in October every year..in USA....and second Monday of October in Canada,etc.  Thanksgiving day has historical roots in religious and cultural traditions ,it has long been celebrated as a secular holiday as well...Turkey meat is prepared and shared by all family members on the occasion of the get together of all members of the family....among other activities of Americans.



I had brought my Microsoft smartphone from India owned by my wife to USA as she uses the phone only telephoning to her relatives or friends....she doesn't even know to locate the phone numbers in phone and seeks my help.Last month when we reached here my daughter offered her I phone to me...her Samsung PC also.Being on Baby sitting..work..
taking care of Vaibhav the grandson,not able to use PC often.of course I have brought my kindle tablet with charger,etc....and thus managing the. Needs.She as mentioned earlier talks well,cooks well,etc and is busy ...

The other day my son in law offering me a Laptop...Acer I think... a new  one...My wife came running...Don't get him anything...he spoils everything and spoils  all my phone's...etc....

Perhaps the following items I have touched and got burnt..at home ...
4 or 5 Cordless phones by connecting thing them to 210 V at India,
Some Lenova Computers, her phones,wristwatches,some cameras...walkie talkie,CD player,etc......
What to do ? My mental status does not remain serious,attentive,active or orderly and thus the result....Things fall down from my hands.....

Even at home although being the sole earner and has some assets she, my spouse  is the controller of all finances.  and takes credit for all good things we have and tags me to all bad things I possess being obedient to her....Even for using my Bank cards I need her approval....Of course she is helpful to all....and I endeavor to be useful to the world ...

Of course I like to be careful...like all to be good....






 Rajesh Brindha Raghavan

Friday, September 29, 2017

Pooja..naivedyam etc at home.....

Chitra RaPooja …functions….. Neivedyam…etc. at home…
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When some male or female coparcener passes away in the joint Hindu family, it is customary to observe certain restrictions on our celebrating festivals, doing some pooja, etc… for one day, three days, and one month, One year etc.may be these are written in some books which I could not lay hand nor enquire about it through Face book… or not written anywhere on books but continued as custom or practice followed by ancestors from generation..

During last three months a coparcener of self and another of my spouse left the world and thus the incidence of such a period occurred. Of course both had crossed 83 years of age and had lived a satisfactorily contented lives with most of their children being Engineers, doctors etc married and a few of them settled in US .Following the advice of elders or the oral advice of our Vadhyars, elder people or patties etc in the house etc we have decided not to celebrate any functions in the house for one year from the date of occurrence of any death in the family.

Today the 29th Sept.. Being Saraswathi Pooja.. the restriction as as applicable now…we did not do any pooja except worshipping a photo of goddess saraswathi as usual. But it was evening when I was talking to my sister in law in Bangalore she said we should keep all books for puja under Saraswathi photo and read books from tomorrow despite all these restrictions in force. So it became necessary for me to serach some books on subjects like Income Tax, Computer, Watson, Sanskrit, Cooking etc and keep them in pooja for reading from tomorrow. Meantime for the last one week or nine days our neighbor Palghat Iyer Maami who is not under such restrictions invites my spouse to their house everyday to see golu , sing songs and get prasdam The maamis bring me golu prasadams everyday when my spouse is away. Today also I wait for some Chundal, Pattani, Payaru, etc from the good neighbors.

Generally what they mean is we should not in a happy mood and celebrate the functions such as Pondukalukku Idal, or say Dievathukku idal,Bhagavathi sevai, and poojas at temple and also do not conduct any poojas etc at some temples and more so in Siva temples. However exceptions are that you can participate in Avani avittam, Deepavali, conduct marriages, seemantham etc etc and some of them without making it a function making special sweets etc..In particular we are told not to go twosome important Siva or Ayyappa temples for some months..Etc. However small functions like children”s or grandchildren”s birthday etc can be celebrated..

In addition we are also told not to participate and attend unimportant marriages etc of others not related to us..…In particular if there is some pooja or something thereof we shouldn’t participate in it. In particular any naivedyam or prasadam etc made and offered during Navarathri, Deepavali etc are banned.

However my daughter in USA is allowed to observe all functions including Golu etc and son at Fremont CA is covered under the restrictions as applicable to us.
However conveying happy Sarswathi Pooja or acknowledging same from others through Face book, Whatsapp, Twitter etc. are not specifically banned. I convey all best wishes for the whole year for all functions festivals etc through this medium.
jesh Brindha Raghavan

Sunday, September 10, 2017

My manni Vaikom Krishna Iyer Rajalakshmy

Vaikom Krishna Iyer Rajaleskhmy…born on 1st June 1934 at Trichur expired on 7th Sept, 2017 at Chennai at 8.35 AM
Star uthiradam
Born to parents..Vaikom Krishna Iyer and Mrs. Meenambal
She had her schooling at Vivekodayam Girls High School Trichur
Born in a musician's family had her tutelage under her father from the age of eight and give performance when she was 12 years old.
She was an AIR Bangalore and Chennai Artiste and was giving programmes a number of years. She has trained more than 2000 students in veena and music in India. In USA also during her stay with som Sreedhar at Oklahoma she was teaching many and participating in programmes of temples there.. During her stay for a fortnight with me at my residence she was teaching her students in person and also through online skype etc. and refreshing us through her reverberating voice accompanied by veena play
Among many awards, she was recognised by the Tombras group for her rendering veena for over 25 years at Rathnagiriswarar temple, Besant Nagar, Chennai 600090
Without prejudice to all her students she has also guided and masters her children grandchildren etc,
Daughter Shyamala..son Sreedhar and grandchildren Sujatha, Sriram,Keshav and Abhinav. She also taught her sisters in law and .other children like Sudha, Chitra ,Parvathi akka and others,,,Of Course the wisdom gained by all these remain as asset for o ever..
She was present on the occasion of Dance Arangetram of her great granddaughter Swathi Nagarajan daughter of Sujatha daughter of Shyamala and daughter of Rajalekshmi a fortnight back at chennai...ie on 27th August 2017 at Sivagami Pethachi Auditorium Chennai and blessed her....
She is remembered by all ......
Brothers and sisters…
Brothers…Sivasubramanyam married to Savithri son Subramanian at Boston USA
Sivaramakrishnan married to Leelavathi sons Krishnan Mumbai, Sriraman USA married to Jayashree and another respectively
Ramalingam Mumbai ‘married to Lalitha
Late Hariharan who passed away at Trichur
Sisters..
Late Jayam married to Ramanthan Mumbai sons Mani Iyer, late Krishnan and a daughter
Sarswathi married to Vadiyanathan..Sons at USA Vinodh and Krishnan all in USA
Late Parvathi who was not married
Rajalekshmi or Rajoo Akka was married to P Ananthanarayanan
Married to P Ananthanarayanan Chennai
Resided at happy home M 43 /1 7th Cross street, Besant agar Chennai 600090
They have visited sons Sridhar at Tulsa Oklahoma and brother Dr Narayan at Hazard Ky many times and she was a green card holder of USA
Her father in law TA Parameswara Iyer Retired Devaswom Commissioner Cochin was married to Annapoorni Ammal daughter of Nurani Seshan .
Their children related to Rajalekshmy
Brothers in law…
Balsaubramanyam (late) married to C R Kalyanam son CAMohan married to Latha..Son Bipin married to Rajalekshmi
Sundaramoorthy married to Radha son Karthik married to Roopa children Kris and Kripa Nashville USA
Dughter Sudha married to Mohee USA children Vishal and I Vishnu USA
Vijayaraghavan married to Brindhalakshmi children DR Chitra daughter married to Sreekanth children Vaibhav and Poorvi
Son Rajesh married to Shwetha children Dhwani and Jhanvi all USA
Dr P I Narayan married to Indira children Dr Divya, DR Nitya and Dr Ram married to Gunjan
She was manni or sister in law to all the above persons
Sisters in law
Parvathi married to Parameswaran children
Sons Ramachnadran, Gopalakrishnan, daughters Vimali and late susi
Bagavthi married to Ramu children Sasi, Venkatkrishnan, and velu married to Venkat, Meenalkshi and Vidya respectively
Their children Shruthi and shashank of sasi, Vikram of Venkatakrishnan, IBM. Vibha daughter of Velu
Others related to her athimbers..
Parameswaran of Paravathi
TK Ramu or Bagavathi
MH Krishnan married to Lakshmi
Dinakar married to Sobhana her daughter Priya and her daughter Meghana father Vadi
Sreekanth of Chitra
Gopu of Susi
Prasad of Sujatha
Parvathi married to Parameswaran children Seethalaskhmi late married to Goplakrihsnan
Annapoorni vimali married to Ravi children CA Anita and CA Amerada married
Sons of Parvathi CA Ramachandaran married to Lakshmi children CA Lalitha, Easwar
Gopalakrishnan a married to lakshmi daughter Shwetha
Other nearest of relatives
Daughter Syamala married to Lakshmanan children Sujhatha and Ramakrishna
Sujatha daughter swathi son Ashwin
Son Sreedhar married to Sharadha sons Keshav and Abhinav all in USA
And many others
She was related to all as daughter, mother, grandmother, great grandmother, wife, periyamma, manni, athai, paatti, akka, thangai and maami and others..as Orupadi , mamiyar etc

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Friday, September 01, 2017

THIRUTT KADAI OR IRUTTUKKADAI HALWA IT TASTES WELL

Thiruttu kadai halwa or Iruttukadai halwa. ......It tastes well….
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We come across several special eatable items with the name of a place tagged to it like Tirupathi laddu,Sabarimalai Aravana   payasam, and many others.…Of course these have gained importance or special choice on account of reasons associated with its preparation, use of ingredients, demand ..Supply factor, etc resulting in good taste.

I just recollect a few of them as under…

Kovilapatti kadalai urundai
Mysore Bonda
Madhur vadey
Thoothukkudi Macrons,
Hospet Menasinakai Bajji
Pune..Or Lonawala Chikki
Dadar Halwa
Thirunelveli halwa
Mysore Pak
Ambalappuzha Palpayasam,
Tirupathi Laddu,
Etc,,

I add an item in the list. Pathamadai Paai… (Mats).as requested by my spouse who hails from there.

Recently I had an occasion to buy some halwa packets as my wife was going to Bangalore alone for attending engagement function of my nephew’s daughter. And, as usual whenever she goes somewhere outside Chennai, carries with her packets of  some eatables for some selected relatives or friends.. It was just a one day trip before leaving had asked me to get some Iruttukadai halwa packets from a nearby shop among others to be given to some of the Bangalore relatives. I went to the shop and asked for Iruttukadai halwa when the shopkeeper corrected me saying it was IRUTTU KKADAI HALWA..May be I did not know its greatness. Later I found out it is made in Tirunelveli Tamilnadu in a hotel or shop under a light fluorescent lamp and for just an hour and half say 5.30 PM to 7 PM everyday using pure ghee and other materials using wheat etc.Mostly the ingredients were original and product tasty and on account of the limited stock made and the taste people used to flock to this Iruttukadai meaning dark shop and buy Halwa. Who ever goes to Tirunelveli does not miss this shop and buy Halwa after worshipping at    Nellaiappar the deity being Shiva     and other temples in Tirunelveli.

The IRUTTUKADAI HALWA has become world famous although several duplicate of similar brand halwa are available even online   through Amazon .com and others at very reasonable prize.

‘We had occasion to go to Trivandrum   Kerala three months back where we found that the same Halwa used to be got by some shops in Trivandrum from Tirunelveli everyday  and sold. Of course we did not buy it on account of certain personal health reasons.
After her leaving for Bangalore, I searched the fridge in the house and found she had kept one piece inside which I stealthily  took  and tasted it. ..It was nice despite standing instructions not to eat sweet items in large quantity..So it was just like a small Thiruttu..(Stealing) and hence the name suited to my action…THIRUTTU OF KADAI HALWAtra Rajesh Brindha Raghavan

Friday, August 18, 2017

Change of Doctor..reduction medicine and increase in fees .

Change of Doctor……reduction in medicine and increase in fees…
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Being senior citizens  we get some benefits under Income Tax or traveling by train or standing in some line .etc...…Of course being senior in age , we are also privileged to visit physicians periodically.

We shifted to Thiruvanmiyur   Chennai in 2010   from Mylapore area and immediately saw that there was a Physician nearby our house and a few Medical stores also  .Our new   physician who is a good person used to charge us reasonably like Rs 100 per visit plus charges for BP, Sugar, Weight etc  Rs 70 every time   and  would prescribe some essential medicines of strength 4X and some new Vitamins, Calcium , Protein-- tablets,   Mind Strengthening tablets, etc all found available in his   clinic   kept behind, The Medicine cost used to be 4 times his fees but since he was having his shop where  only you get his  prescribed extra medicines we were compelled to buy all these  from his shop  getting him  total profit.

Last month he shifted his clinic to OMR..Old Mahabalipuram Rd… about 5 KM away from us. Here the clinic used to be after 1 PM up to 3 PM or night after 9 PM being convenient to us.

After his shifting we searched for another Physician near our surroundings.. Finally we found out another Doctor meeting our needs… visiting a Hospital nearby regularly. He was nice although we have to wait for sometime..He looked at our   current prescriptions and reduced all medicines by around 75 percent thereby cost per month was reduced. But his fees per head he charged Rs 300 thereby adjusting the total cost resulting in gain to him.

My wife was telling our daughter in USA today that our new Doctor reduced all medicines but increased his fees. She didn’t say anything but asked us to follow food, diet, exercise and take medicines regularly.

We have to see the results of our diagnostic tests after taking these reduced medicine for 3 months 

Sunday, July 30, 2017

Chitra Rajesh Brindha Raghavan

Pension is valuable...
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It was last week in one of my Face book groups comprising Bank employees  there was a mention about our need to educate our spouse  or inform children etc about the  existence  of Family pension for those who get Pension after retirement from Government service… Bank,etc, They had  also enclosed copies of formats to be submitted by the wife or husband to the Banks along with Aadhar/Pan identification and proof of date of birth from SSLC Book etc.  I got print outs of the formats etc and explained to my wife about the existence of Family Pension for Bank Pensioners. In short it allows Family pension to the spouse of the deceased for life time and to children any up to 25 years age. The pension amount may be just a third of what the Pensioner gets…and as seen Pensioners..Employees are fighting with IBA...or Governments to to increase Family pensions

It was in this connection I was reminded of my father…He served in Kerala state or some statutory Board…Hindu Religious and Charitable Endowments Dept Cochin and retired as the Commissioner…the highest post in the Dept. . .Probably the age of retirement was 55 in Kerala and when he retired many of us his children were stills studying in schools. We are a large family of 13 children and I was the eleventh….He had taken care all of us from his salary income and for a large period from pensions as he had got pension over 30 years after retirement.Of Course the amount of pension  when compared to same today was less..That is another subject of Economics…fall in value of money..Inflation…deflation etc. BUT HIS PENSION  was a permanent  source of income to bring up the children…and I may state all the children got good education...job etc…More than 20 of his children/grandchildren are in USA….5 of them are Physicians, 5 of them Chartered Accountants, more than five of them Engineers..Computer people etc and others a few Bankers, a few Law graduates..Etc.except cricket players and cinema actors and politicians all types of people are there..Of course he did not allow our mother to get any family pension as she passed away earlier. So my point is his Pension was the sole supporter in bringing up a large family and hence Pension is something which is valuable in service.
I too get pension after retirement...being credited on last day of the month..enough for us to survive. And pay the Income Tax thereon..Whenever I get SMS credit for pension I remember the institution the Bank which gives me pension after retirement.

I read in some Malayalam news somewhere recently they had advertised for posts of LDC in Kerala..there were many applicants who were post graduates some of them in Engineering etc..the reason being they need a Government job with assured service conditions and Pension, Family pension etc  etc.
So pension is a valuable source of income after we retire and the family too gets it…

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Saturday, July 15, 2017

It is a pain to undergo any injury........collision, fracture , violent trauma etc....

Chitra Rajesh Brindha...group......

It is really a pain to undergo any fall, injury, collision,fracture ,violent trauma of bones and face the consequences......but needs proper after operation care...
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After facing initial difficulties following a fall and fracture of bones in knee and leg it was necessary to engage a maidservant in our house. We are just two and house over 1100 sq ft requiring sweeping, mopping the floors with cleaning solutions
, etc in addition cleaning our day today utensils..the total work time around 15 minutes a day. Other work washing our clothes, caring for toilets etc are done by ourselves ..me and wife...It was out of necessity we engaged an old lady for doing the above work. since 2013...she comes around 9 AM daily finishes the work within 15 minutes...in addition to her doing similar work in six to seven houses in the neighborhood. Of Course my spouse sweeps, cleans all the rooms before the old lady comes as she just does the work just like that ...even the utensils cleaned require a second wash and clean...Having regard to her age and he number of dependents she has..we did not bother about the quality of work.and used to pay her wages on 1st of every month. It was two days when I returned home by 9 AM after attending to some work it was informed that the maidservant met with some accident or something broke her hands or bones in hand...not known fully..but heard she had put some Puttur Bandage...Probably she couldn't go to a Orthopedist and get any surgery or bandage as done by Allopathy Doctors....considering the huge cost. I wish she becomes alright soon and resumes normal life ..of course even her coming back is not welcome. if she has physical difficulties..Of Course we are able to do our work ourselves.


In this connection I narrate some personal experiences....any of these hairline or multiple fractures take time around 6 weeks, 12 weeks depending on the type of injury. Of Course it heals faster than any sprain as the surgical procedure done does heal faster.. Again the other effects or consequences are as follows.
These are weight bearing bones or femur which would have been injured...and necessarily the strength of the weight bearing bones is directly proportional to the body weight of the person. As such any injury affects the weight bearing capacity..incapacitates normal walking...needs stretch /bandages/sling/splint ..etc or supports available in different types for restricted movements depending on the type of injury. It would be for a maximum period of 3 months..Of Course the injured comes to normalcy after some days or say 6 weeks , 8 weeks etc..With dislocation of bones, repairs of bones, growth of ligaments, growth of membranes around bones muscles surrounding ,etc regular exercise as advised by a physiotherapist would accelerate the process of the injured regaining normalcy soon. Use of wheelchairs/walking stick with adequate control systems are also available as found necessary for the convalescing victims . These are in addition to regular intake of painkillers...diclofenac, paracetamol.. Vitamin..calcium .etc tables taken when required.

Another important aspect resulting from any injury is any weakness in bone due to deficiency in calcium etc would make bones susceptible to further damage on account of any fall etc. It would be required to take a Basic calcium screening or test to determine the calcium deficiency to determine the required medication for avoiding further injuries or even osteoporosis .A visit to a specialist would be preferable to determine the correct position and take medicines.

There will be slight reduction in speed of walking of persons so injured. Also it would be slightly difficult for such persons who had injured and later cured to climb steps etc in bus train etc and a physical support from another person would be required.

Moreover, with disturbances in parts above the legs etc including the thighs it would be difficult for them to sit on floor in sitting position as bending down and sitting and getting up would be difficult.

Of Course Medical science have improved much and it would be required to go to a proper ortho , have the x ray etc done and the necessary surgery done and post surgery care followed strictly..

I just write this based on my personal experiences and the recent injury to our maid servant and other injuries others in family had...I am not a Physician or an Orthopedist...and thus would request that those who had injuries should take all proper care.Everything will be ok...

Of Course one of the accidents was a fall in a wet floor..resulting in multiple fracture..of course set right...and now normal but more care is taken in walking on wet floors, etc.

Another was an accident while travailing in an auto rickshaw..over speeding and injury in shoulder..clavicle... breaking bones...It became thus necessary to avoid by travel auto in places like Chennai..

A third was her sitting and travelling on pillion in a two wheeler . without her sitting and holding properly and falling down and pulled by vehicle for 100 feet. in Tiruchirapalli..her being having no balance resulting in injuries...loss of teeth etc.
So it became necessary to take all precautions for avoiding injuries from accidents

Chitra...Rajesh...brindha group.......

Saturday, July 08, 2017

Jeeyapuram days...blog...one post by Brindha Lakshmi....

Jeeyapuram days...blog......

My wife the eldest in the family of R Venkataraman and T A Karunambal had four brothers..During a part of our lives we have lived in Tiruchirapalli and her parents were living in an owned house at Jeeyapuram gramam in Tiruchirappalli The children of the daughter and brothers all used to come together at Jeeyapuram and enjoy..and had happy time for decades with the Cauvery water nearby etc....I used to visit them rarely being the only son in law ..There was a blog prepared by my son Rajesh and contributed by the member children of the family.From one of the postings of my spouse Brindha Lakshmi I reproduce below as it appears interesting.

From Brindha akka and athimber

Thank you Jayanti, Chitra,Uma....and Seetha.....

I had left OUR HOUSE on marriage in 1974 and all of you became nattu pongals...daughters in law of the house thereafter, Hence I couldn't exercise my powers as nathanar, Of Course I thank you all for certifying me as a good Akka but would like my brothers to confirm whether I was/I am a good Akka to them..... Of Course I had periodical reporting about the good, adjustable,pious, obedient,nature of all of you through my secret agent...my mother....who consider all of you as their daughters....
My brothers also now and then hinted to me their fortune in having such good wives...Kindly keep it up....

I am a part of Jeeyapuram family...shall write my views about many things soon..

I only recollect with pleasure the hose at Jeeyapuram where all our family members starting from our grandmother Lakshmi Ammal and all kids till now......!!!!!! have met on many an occasion and lived together.... and enjoyed the pleasure of being part of a large joint family.....

Anna ,my father and Manni my mother always like the happiness and welfare of all always and I like to contribute towards their wish
SARVE JANAHA SUKHINO BHAVANTHU.......

Thank you to ALL GOOD NATTUPONGALS....OR MATTUPONGALS....

Your athimber is a silent spectator and support to me in all my efforts.... He also praises all of you Mattu Pongal.... for having given me no opportunity to exercise my inherent powers...

BRINDHA AKKA.....
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 Rajesh Brindha Raghavan

Thatha My father in law



Chitra Rajesh Brindha Raghavan

Saturday, July 01, 2017

Today is Doctors Day ..2017...let me share some news....

Chitr
What's new with you?

Today the 1st July 2017 is the Doctor's: day...

I attach a writing from my record made during 2006......explaining the various Doctors whom we met ...referring to many of our family members....
It was the desire of our parents that one of us study Medicine...I may state five members from the family are Physicians in USA ..and a few others related to them also work as Cardiologists, Oncologists, General Medical Practitioners, Plastic Surgeons etc..

We need Doctors when we are sick and hence thank them all....


• Next Chapter€¦23.7.2006
I continue with a new subject matter just for a change€¦
OUR HEALTH, THE DOCTORS WHOM WE REMEMBER AS God€¦Narayaneeyam composed by Meppathur NARAYANA Bhattathiri in praise of Lord Vishnu/Guruvayurappan for relief from all sickness€¦
We remember the deities in various temples like Guruvayurappan in Guruvayur temple,Bagavathy in Chottanikkara,Siva in Vadakkunathan temple, Kochu Guruvayurappan in Thiruvambadi temple€¦.Also remember some of our teachers …gurus€¦.who taught us , reprimanded us, punished us, encouraged us, praised us,etc

Similarly the Doctors whom we have approached us and have cured our illness also remain green in our memory€¦and we attribute to them the status of God€¦
It is humanly difficult to describe various feelings/pain/sufferings /symptoms of sickness as each one feels it differently. However there are similar common forms such as headache, heaviness of head,giddiness,,perspiration,high temperature felt through out body and on the forehead,etc dehydaration,constipation,indigestion,hyptertension,hypotension,nausea,vomiting sensation, ear pain, irritation of eyes, general weakness of body, loss of strength, ,psychological diordrers,,depression,etc…..And with the modern advancement of medicine most of us take medicines ourselves like Acetoaminophene(Teylenol),Paracetemol,Aspirin,Diclofenac,Salubutomol,Deriphylline,Betamethasone,Beta blockers ,Antidotes, Pain killers,...
Antibiotic, ampicillin, sedatives, alprazoms, diazepam like Valium, purgatives€¦..and a host of other medicines€¦ ,etc for illness and medicines under various brand names readily available in medical shop€¦But these are not real remedies€¦.and on many occasions the sickness persists. With persistent fever, a€¦headache€¦etc and we are finally compelled to go to Doctor or a quack€¦for diagnosing the illness and cured by medication….injections…intravenous,intramuscular, by diagnosing after subjecting us to various tests€¦by the Doctors.

Also in case of any injury,accident,,,etc may be the person becoming unconscious …we rush the patient to a hospitals or a surgeon€¦So ultimately the Doctor..Whether, a Physician, Surgeon, Dentist,,ENT Specialist,Cardiologist.,Urologist,Psychiatrist,etc..each specialized in various fields is contacted by us for medical diagnosis, determination of sickness and prescribing required medicines. Ordinarily our physician having a stethoscope/thermometer feel the pulse,temperature,BPlevel,,blood sugar level etc and sometimes subject us to pathological tests,,xray,scanning,biopsy,ECG…Electrocardiogram€¦etch€¦.it is but natural /common for the patient to feel frightened about sickness and a feeling of sadness about the sickness, and the likely time it will take for curing it etc €¦Once cured of any sickness we feel grateful to the Doctor who treated us and convey our thanks€¦and feel in our heart of hearts the Doctor as a human form of God almighty who saved me/us€¦We pay him/her the fees and pray God to give long. good health to the Doctors€¦We do not know whom the said Doctors approach when they fall sick……
Having lived for 59 long years, present or current illness for me is hypertension…and continue with medicines such as Atenol,….Ramipril,Restyl…..being taken daily€¦.Before reaching this stage of sickens, I give in brief the various Doctors whom I have approached/the Hospitals I have visited ETC ¦..

Of course many of the Doctors whom I
Introduce are known to most of the piyer offspring€¦.
It was Dr.Venkatachalm in Trichur who was called so by us. He was the family Doctor in Trichur .He used to travel in hand pulled rickshaw in the evenings visiting his patients on call…we used to send message for any sickness to anyone in the family and Dr Venkatachalam used to come in the rickshaw in the evening. He used to have his stethoscope,, thermometer, syringe, some penicillin ampules,distilled water ,etc..Of course in his clinic or compounders room he had some dressing materials like surgical cotton, lint, Dettol,,,tincture iodine,,etc…He ws actually a compounder but we had recognized him as a Doctor a Deemed Doctors€¦â€¦His house cum clinic was near Petrol bunk in Naickanal €¦.had a Rice mill of his family and his brother being an gymnasium teacher and Drill Teacher in our school€¦Vivekodayam Boys High school. He has come to our house and treated us for sickness like influenza,fever,typhoid,asthma and for some minor dressing for minor accidents.
He was thus our First Family Doctor with Divine status conferred by us. Now his son is a qualified Doctors MD and other details not known as we have left Trichur some 46 years back
There were other Doctors also in Trichur like Dr.Krishna Iyer near our house. He used to come on emergency call for our Eachara periappa who had some cardiac problem and was staying with us in the Paruvakkat house..Dr Krishna Iyer had a roaring business and his house quite bungalow type€¦.and a large clinic€¦His children Parvathi, Ranjini,etc classmates of some piyer members and son Sai ..We have seen Dr Krishna Iyer as a rich Doctor with his own car, house,etc

I remember once when Sundaram had an accident by fall of an almirah on his head he was taken to Dr Krishna Iyers clinic..
Then it was during an accident I had in June,1960 ,,,…when I fell down from a mango tree€¦ I was taken to Trichur District Hospital where one Mr.Vijayakumar bone specialist who had taken care of me. Other Doctors or the District Medical Officer had visited me €¦their names I do not know.
Of course it is worth mentioning the medical shops like Kamala Medicals, Pallan medicals from where we used to buy medicines
Of course there were no gynecologist etc those days for procedure connected with childbirth/delivery. and we were told one Narayanikuuti nurse who was the one took care of deliveries of many of us.
Our father and mother having teeth trouble have approached some Dentists in Trichurwho by removing their natural teeth had replaced with gold plated set.€¦we saw the gold in their teeth some years but later disappeared as it might have been consumed by them while taking food.Ofcourse we were told that the Dentist had extracted much money for making golden teeth along with extracting the natural teeth.

We have seen herbs/roots …being purchased from Naatuumarundhu kadai and oil prepared for mother and father€¦but do not ™t know the vaidhyar who would have prescribed the naatumarundhu,the process of making herbal etc, Now only the utensils used for preparing oils are remaining with us somewhere,,,
During our next phase of life we were treated by Doctors …stationed at Bangalore .

It was Dr.V.E.Jayaraman who used to be approached by us for family members€¦who although a retired Radiologist was doing practice as a physician. by traditional ways€¦..he had weighing machine,stethescope,some pipettes, syringes, common balance etc in his clinic at the back of his house in Sivajinagar…a few minut3es walk from back of Sivajinagar Bus stop €¦Dr Jayaraman was a very old systematic physician€¦.our Anna konthai /manni were his first patients who introduced us to him or vice versa€¦He used to make medicinal preparations with some powder,liquid,mixture etc and supply us and not to prescribe a list of medicines .
In addition in our neighborhood at Gutthhalli we had a qualified Doctor Dr Rukmangadahan ..who was a seasoned/experienced physician who was a well to do person having good bungalow in Kumara Park those days. It was Rukmangadhan Dr who used to give us Medical certificates in need for availing sick leave. Joining duty etc.
Just opposite to his clinic in Guttahalli we had Dr Kurien..He was not a qualified Doctor or so but had huge crowds in his clinic especially people who could not afford huge sums for medical consultations used to approach€¦he used to prescribe some medicines like Elkosin..Aspirin€¦and diet bread€¦orange twice daily before taking medicine and after taking medicine etc…..but a practitioner liked most by large sections of the ailing population in Guttahalli.

Just opposite to our rented house in H 28 Anneyappa Block, we had Dr Mallesu…who was a Retired Military Doctors€¦whom we used to approach for emergency when no other Doctor was available. I remember knocking st his door when I had breathing trouble asthma€¦which did not €™t stop after taking d sedanol,tedral etc…he went inside the house searched for a piece of pencil in some corner of the house and prescribed a tablet in a chit of paper€¦the medicine being cortasmil€¦a form of steroid€¦.of course the medicine used to give relief.
I also remember our having approached him for getting a certificate for our fathers death at Bang lore in July, 1983…since it was required for obtaining death certificate from Ban galore Corporation.
Dr Mallesus daughter also studied medicine..MD I think she specialized in Cardiology€¦
Nest to our house after 1978 we had Dr Nichani. He was consulted by many of us€¦when our father used to come to Bang lore and complain of self imagined sickness we used to go to his clinic in the night after 9 PM call him and he used to come ….solace father saying he was ok.

In 1979 I had returned from Majhgaon..Bihar on vacation and after returning from Ernakulam,Palghat etc to Ban galore in August, I had severe cough headache one day eveinig.OurLakshmi who was going to Guttahalli Ganesa temple in the evening came enquired about my illness and gave me a crocine but the headache did not €™t stop. Whole night I had terrific experience continuous cough and severe headache€¦while coughing I remember streaks of light appearing in front of my eyes. Despite taking cough mixtures etc did not €™ stop. In the morning perhaps I was unconscious was taken to Dr Nachani who after checking referred me to Dr Devaraj of Arpita Clinic In Sesahdripuram…near our Sesahdripuram High School€¦I was taken in an auto rickshaw by my brother Sundaram to Arpita clinic€¦there at about 11 AM Dr Renuka Arya their chief arrived who diagnosed the sickness as Pneumococcal pyogenic meningitis and advised his doctors…Surgeons…. at Arpita clinic Dr Kurse ,Dr Dr Devaraj… to proceed with lumber puncture€¦a process of removing the infection from spinal chord by piercing and removing€¦I may be wrong about the procedure..etc however after the puncture and removal of liquid€¦I was subjected continuous rain of Penicillin injections…and saved….I remember our Manni,Anna,Appa being informed of the critical nature of illness came from Madras and manni staying in the Arpita clinic one night€¦Of course Raamu Athimber , Parvathi etc used to visit the clinic and bring me food coffee,chappadu etc for a week thereafter I was discharged,, Thereafter for a month I had injections medicines etc given by Dr Nichani..

More often than not children desire to fall sick or pretend to be sick€¦for giving an excuse when they are asked to study, prepare for exam or in the class room/college when unable to answer some questions in any subject….the answer I am not well/or feeling well yesterday etc.
Similarly I remember occasions when we were tempted to get indisposed or fall sick for the reason it was during your illness your parents and others take more about to you.. But here is a case e where we wanted to get sick as we remember it ws during sickness/convalescence we were provided with bread, orange fruit,etc…It is thus no exaggeration to say our seeing bread, orange fruits,,chathukudi,etc being provided to sick persons in our heart of hearts we were feeling jealous and desired we should also get sick to enjoy the parental care and privileged food made available during sickness and a few days thereafter.

We have annual festivals like Onam,Avani avittam, Deepavali,vishu,,,,etc celebrated s per tradition making it compulsory for all members to participate in it. Similarly we had an annual ritual like compulsory duty…that is taking purgative and cleaning the stomach. It used to be fixed on a day after schooldays, early morning coffee or tea not allowed instead 3 doses of avanakkennai given as purgative€¦.for smooth cleaning of stomach€¦in the after noon we are provided d with thayir Chatham and in the night full meals€¦Of course the relief we get cannot be imagined or explained however the pungent smell of the purgative and difficulty we face in gulping it early morning was hard€¦So vayarelakkal was a regular event in the family and all the members participating in it on different days….
Now back to the original subject of Doctors I had occasion to call on a number of Doctors as a Sales representative detailing them products such as Formula 44,Clerasyl,etc…but those Doctors did not give any treatment.. Then before joining the Company Richardson Hindustan Ltd Bombay in 1967 I had Medical Checkup by Doctor Shangvi at Dadar. And in 1968 while joining Bank of India I had Medical check up at a clinic near Gandhi agar Bangalore by some Doctor.Agarwal,etc

Now coming to our children Rajesh was born at a Christian Hospital in Theni..and the Doctors name not known The Hospital collected Rs 25/ as donation and no professional charges etc. But for Chithra she had delivery at the clinic of Dr Vaidehi in 1983..her clinic was just opposite to Ganapathiyan koil,Besantnagar, and her house the one where Hari stays now.
We have also taken CHITRA o a Doctor Surgeon Srinivasan in Trust Cross Road for removing a a small growth at her back by a surgical procedure which ws referred by our family Doctor Sivaraman in Mandevalli. Dr Sivaraman was very calm and cordial with all of us…except chithra s mother others used to meet him for sickness, medical certificate ,etc. When CHITRA went to him once after her joining MBBS he asked her _Enna enakkau pottiya varaporiya
Chitra had a fall from a bus in Madras near Mandevalli and had fractured her hand and was taken to BSS Hospital Mandevalli by her classmates...her left hand was bandaged for2 months. The Bone specialist who treated her ws Dr Arthanareeswaran
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Some Doctors whom I met in Bihar.
Dr Mukherjee and Mrs. Mukherjee in Jamshedpur when Rajesh’s mother was carrying in 1977 she was going there v to Mrs mukherjee for regular checkup.
There was one Paagal Banerjee in Bistupur in Jamshedpur who also used to be contacted by us€¦he was not good in practice.
Then In Majhgaon ... Bihar.... at the time of my having asthma during winter I used to consult one Homeopath doc who in addition to giving so many sugar coated pills used to prescribe Betnasol 3 or 4 per day which I used to take, and perhaps excessive intake of Betnsol triggered off BP and have become one attacked with BP..
Of course while I was staying alone in Borivli Bombay..... 1999... I used to go to one Doctor udeshi who prescribed CIPLAR 10 for BP and was working well for over 6 years.
In Madras once when Rajesh came from USA I took him to Dr Shetty near All in One shop who prescribed him some medicines€¦etc and we bought some medicines likeCrocin.Dependal, Benadryl,Glycodine,Dispirin etc at Tamilnadu Medical store Besanatnagar Madras,We have also seen Ayurveda specialist Dr Girija at Besant agar.

Let me close the subject of Doctors and come to a panacea for all illness.
NARAYANEEYAM is composed by Melpathur Narayana Bhattthiri in100chapters.Many persons were cured of illness after having paarayanam of it It deals with praise of Lord Krishana...Narayana.. Krishna in protecting the needy in difficulty. The main persons who are related in this Narayaneeyam Paryaneeyam are Bhattathiri, Chembai Vaidyanatha Bagavathar, Anantharama Diikshidhar..
It is required we also keep Narayaneeyam Book in our houses and read at least one chapter per days€¦Naryaneeyam paarayanm by a group can also be done in one day or more days for the PROSPERITY of Universe....and bringing good health to ALL...
Let us meet next week with a new chapter€¦.
Raghavan
PS There may be spelling and other mistakes which kindly excuse...a Rajesh Brindha Raghavan